Along came a Narc

Along came a Narc

Who made me his mark.

As he studied me online

He mirrored my values to make me believe he was a man I wanted to be mine. 

Little did I know none of his charm could he sustain. 

So after we married and 2 children later so began his narcissistic reign. 

He discovered me online in a divorce chat group, my unknown voyeur for months. I was in the midst of a divorce from my first husband who had cheated and left me with 4 very young children. He silently watched as I conversed with others going through similar situations.  I expressed my frustrations with my soon to be ex’s excessive pornography use, his hiding of money and ultimately taking early withdrawals from a work IRA to fund his affairs.  His disinterest in being a father. How easily he moved on from all 5 of us barely looking back. My total distain for infidelity. 

After months of watching me, in rode my white knight, mirroring every single one of my beliefs. Oh how naive I was. 

It was a mostly ‘online’ affair for quite a while, moving to phone contact and eventually meeting in person. He was overtly charming and had a pretty face. I was hooked.  

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That was the very beginning. The Narc building his web. Where are we now? Still at a beginning, but the beginning of the end. Lying, cheating, stealing, thieving, gaslighting, adultery are his calling cards. After 19.5 years he left for the surprisingly unattractive married receptionist at work.  But it’s the middle 22 years and counting that the Narc wrapped me in his cocoon, devouring my self esteem and self worth, sucking my very life away. 3 years have passed since I discovered his affair. 3 years of no longer living directly under his harsh reality. I am regaining what he took away. I have a crazy 22 year long story to tell. 

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