This was one of those times Narc truly came out of left field, blindsiding me with the sheer absurdity of his rage. We went from point A to point B by way of Timbuktu. I believe it was sometime around early 2017. Our youngest daughter was begging to get a dog. We already had two dogs but one favored me exclusively and the other dog favored the Narc first and then me second when he wasn’t home. Our daughter wanted one that was hers alone. The Ex took our daughter to the county animal shelter to look around. She picked one of two sisters recently transferred from an overcrowded kill shelter, but the dog she picked hadn’t been spayed yet so we had to wait. My daughter and I went back after the designated quarantine time to bring her home. As it turned out she wasn’t doing well after her spay, but her sister was up and around and begging us for attention. Daughter asked to bring the lively sister home instead. So after paying the fees she was ours. We named her Belle. They said they believed Belle was approximately 9 months old. It was quite obvious Belle had been abused and neglected and had never been inside a house before. She wasn’t potty trained so we had no choice but to kennel her while we were at work. Belle came to use with partially healed cigarette burns and cuts and she was terrified of Narc, cowering any time he came near her. It was obvious her abuser had been a man. She was open and loving toward daughter and I from the first moment.
After a month or so of kenneling her she seemed to grasp potty training well. Narc said we should let her free range our home while at work. We moved into our new build home 10/2015, and I was hesitant to let her loose. I left for work at 6:45am Monday-Friday. Narc left an hour later. I didn’t know he had let her free roam our home that day until I returned home after work to find all exposed electrical cords chewed to extinction. Lap top, phone, lamp cords, my curling iron. Everything had been chewed to small pieces. Back to kenneling.
After about a month Narc left Belle out without discussing with me again. While at work I received a text from my son after he returned home from work. Our love seat had the entire front shredded off and the love seat was on the opposite side of the room. I pulled my phone out to see the picture sent to me and all I could do was cry. My boss rushed over to me and asked what was wrong. I turned my phone around and showed him the picture. My boss said oh shoot, i will give you a minute.
I cried for days. Every time I walked into the living room I cried, I just couldn’t help it. It was all I had and it was ruined. Saturday morning rolled around and the Ex angrily announced we were going to Ashley Furniture to look for a new sofa set. We picked out a new set for our living room.
The next weekend we had all of our adult kids over for dinner. Narc behaved as usual. Standoffish, not engaging with any of us. We were talking about the new couches. I joked that thanks to the dogs, I can never have nice things. Maybe you can guess where this is going.
After all the adult kids left, Narc was in full silent mode. No eye contact, pretending I wasn’t speaking, acting as if i wasn’t in the room. This went on for weeks. I tried repeatedly to get Narc to talk to me. Alternating rage and back to silence. No explanation. On and on the days passed. Then one day, probably 6 weeks later, he blew up at me and stated: I work my ass off to provide you with nice things. How dare you tell our kids I don’t provide you with nice things. I was gobsmacked. What? What are you talking about? He raged that I had disrespected him, telling the family he doesn’t provide for me.
I endured 6 weeks of alternating silence and rage, just to be lied about and falsely accused. Narc regurgitated that false claim against me again and again from that point forward until our divorce. Every time he was angry from that point forward until I caught him cheating he brought out the accusation that I said he didn’t provide nice things.
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